To me, recognizing the distinction between opposing gay marriage and opposing gay people is a natural outgrowth of an internal distinction: When it comes to my identity, I take care not to reduce myself to my sexual orientation. Sure, it’s a huge part of who I am, but I see myself to be larger than my sexual expression: I contain my gayness; it doesn’t contain me. If it’s true that my gayness is not the most fundamental aspect of my identity as Brandon, then it seems to me that someone could ideologically disapprove of my sexual expression while simultaneously loving and affirming my larger identity."
Brandon is an openly gay man who supports same-sex sexual relationships. To hear him make the distinctions that he does in this article is rather encouraging, I think. So often we hear from the pro gay marriage folks that if you oppose gay marriage, you are anti gay people. It is nice to hear someone from that camp say something contrary.