I think there is a real tendency to flatten experiences. Many people might be tempted to do what Eve describes here in this excerpt:
A lot of the "don't identify as gay" stuff seems to me to be an attempt to gloss over real differences in experience, to pretend that homosexuality makes no important difference in one's life path as a Christian in contemporary society. That seems to me to be an effort to understand gay difference and gay experience as banal. ("I'm not married, so I have to be chaste too! Our situations are just the same. So why are you acting like you're different and special?" No. Our situations may have important lessons for one another. Your situation may be harder than mine in various ways, e.g. I don't sit up nights wondering why I haven't found a nice girl to marry me. But solidarity requires acknowledgment of difference, not suppression of it.)
Number one, no matter how homely a particular straight guy might be, there is still always the possibility that a particular girl might find his particular brand of homeliness her exact cup of tea, and they could fall in love. I do not have any hope whatsoever of finding the right guy for me...at least if I want to remain faithful to what I believe scripture teaches. So, unless the Lord changes my attractions, my state of celibacy seems much more sure and permanent that "average Joe straight-guy."
This leads to a second way that my experience is different. For a straight guy, when they feel a physical attraction to a girl, they are allowed pursue that attraction toward the end goal of marriage. Now, they might get rejected time and time again, but the fact remains that they can always try to pursue the girl, and if done in a biblical way, that pursuit pleases the Lord. For me as a gay guy, every single physical attraction that I feel must be fought. In regard to romantic feelings, my default mental setting must always be set on "kill!" instead of "cultivate". I have written before on how I don't believe that the WHOLE attraction needs to be fought, but the physical/sexual aspects do.
Now, I do acknowledge that the Lord could change my attractions, or at least bring a particular girl into my life that I become attracted to. However, even in that there is an important difference. For me, at this moment, I have no idea what it is like to be legitimately attracted to a woman. I've tricked myself into it before, but it hasn't ever really been real. So that means that for me to have a legit romantic relationship, I need to have an experience that I have never had before...i.e. be attracted to a woman. That isn't true for straight guys. They have experienced PLENTY of attractions that could potentially lead to a God-glorifying relationship.
I'll mention one more way that I feel the difference (there are more, but no time). For me as a gay guy, close friendships with other guys can be more difficult in at least two ways.
Number one, I might find myself physically attracted to a particular friend, and so I need to make sure that I am acting toward him in all purity. However, I don't typically find this to be all that difficult to navigate. In fact, I usually find that even with my friends that I am most physically attracted to, the more I get to know him, the less physically drawn to him I become.
The second way is how I perceive my male friendships to be most difficult. Here is a hypothetical situation. Lets say that something particularly hard has just happened in my life. I feel spent and close to despair. I go to my friends house to hang out, and when I see him all I really want is to let him know how I am feeling, and for him to give me a hug. No sexual feelings, no desire for anything inappropriate, simply the physical touch of another human. However, I know that said friend knows that I am gay. So...if I ask for a hug, will he feel uncomfortable? Will he worry that he is causing me to stumble? Does he even really want to hug me, or does he think it is really kind of gross? And so I don't hug him.
That is simply one hypothetical situation. There are a hundred more that I encounter daily where the thought crosses my mind, "Did he read something into that touch? What was he thinking? Oh no, I went in for the bro hug and it seemed like he was just going for the hand shake...did he not want to hug me?" It's kind of tough to explain...I hope it makes at least a little sense on how this is tough to navigate and NOT the same experience as a straight guy.
Those differences that I just highlighted to not nullify the ways in which my experience is similar to a Christian celibate straight guy. After all, the words "Christian" and "celibate" are in both of our labels. However, the words "straight" and "gay" do bring with them many differences, and we aren't helping anyone when we just ignore them.